As I a man, I cannot really begin to understand your pain, but perhaps I can give a little hope.
There are many of us (men and women) who see beyond sex. In fact many of us are rallying behind the best person we can think of to challenge Trump in 2020.
HER name is: Tulsi Gabbard.
I hope you research her, She is an inspiration. Integrity, Courage, Intelligence and Compassion.
She has very clear views of the ideas she will, and will not support. She will choose her moral compass over political expediency any day of the week. That’s why there are things people on the left do not like about her, and people on the right do not like about her.
But at the same time, she comes across as authentic, her actions align with her words (she volunteered as a military medic for the war of Iraq, not because she agreed with the war, but because she wanted to help her unit).
There is hope, even when it is too difficult to see and hear. We are the silent majority who are blind to race, gender and sexual orientation.
There is already a lot of dis information against Major Gabbard, She has not even chosen to run yet, but we know that if the duty calls, she will respond.
Please do not have pre-conceptions about her, do your research, and I am hopeful you will find in her inspiration, and a goal.